Over the last four decades, the global divorce rate has almost doubled. And, let’s be honest – splitting up with someone you truly cared about is never, ever going to be easy. Whether you both realised it was the right thing to do, or you had to go through a contentious battle with divorce solicitors and lawyers, it can be an exhausting experience.
Even if you knew it was time to end things, it’s still a loss, and it’s okay to grieve. You might not know what your next step should be, and everything probably feels a little overwhelming.
So, why not take the opportunity to travel?
Before you think about how crazy that might sound, consider the fact that there are actually so many benefits to traveling on your own after a split. It can really help you to rediscover who you are (and who you were before you were in a relationship) and can kickstart the next chapter of your life.
Between work, family, and societal obligations, you probably have a lot on your plate already. But, when you add a life-changing event to that, it’s easy to feel more stress than usual. That can weigh you down and can even lead to mental health struggles like anxiety.
Taking a trip on your own gives you a chance to take a break from everything. Even if you can only manage to get away for a weekend, it’s an opportunity to take a breath and focus on your own needs for a while.
You only have to worry about yourself. You can eat where you want and when you want. You can see the sites you’re interested in, take different tours, and clear your mind without having to wait for anyone else or consider what anyone else might want to do.
It Gives You Control
After ending your relationship with someone, life can often start to feel a little bit out of control. Taking a trip puts you back in the driver’s seat because you have to plan out every step.
It might not feel like much, but everything from deciding where you want to go to purchasing plane tickets to booking a hotel gives you a little bit of control. Those bits and pieces start to add up quickly. You’ll soon realise that if you can control the “small things,” you can start to feel like you’re in charge of your own life and your own destiny again.
An Opportunity for Growth
One of the exciting things about traveling, especially on your own, is that things don’t always go according to plan. While that might sound stressful at first, it really depends on your perspective.
If you were in a relationship for a long time or you feel as though your life has been the same for years, something not going according to your plan can be a good thing. It forces you to adapt, make necessary changes, and grow. You don’t have anyone else to rely on when you’re traveling alone, so you’ll have to make decisions as you best see fit. Look at it as a learning opportunity, and take the lessons with you.
You don’t even have to leave the country to feel more empowered by traveling. Whether you’re from the U.S. and want to see some of the biggest and best cities, or you’re from the UK and want to play tourist in your own community, traveling solo doesn’t necessarily mean going too far.
What you should focus on, instead, is trying new things wherever you go. If you open yourself up to new experiences, you can start to feel more empowered and rebuild your self-confidence. You can rediscover the parts of yourself that may have gotten lost in your relationship, and end up feeling more like “you” than you have in years.